So, why do we cheat?(updated)

WELL! Can you say segue? Simplicity you all but concluded our latest post in your last post! After your insightful rant, I had to go here. It seems along the lines of discussing what makes others expendable we touched on infidelity. I know I know what took us so long! You simply can't have a male/female shared experience (in this case a blog) without getting into why we cheat. I could go a myriad of ways: men cheat because its our nature to conquer, men cheat because we are weak and can't resist temptation- dating back to the days of Adam, men cheat because the mathematics of it all the sheer numbers involved suggesting its 10 women for every 1 man! We have to have multiple women either that or there will be a lot of lonely, lesbians running around! But I digress; I won't quote none of those reasons. I'll give you the reason I suffered my indiscretions. I have to give it to your Simplicity on this one- the main reason I cheated was lack of fulfilment. My girl is great a wonderful young lady holds down the household handles her business takes care of my son like no other. But there's only so much one person can be. She can't be the master chef keeping the house immaculate knocking out the laundry AND be Vanessa Del Rio (porn star) all at the same time. And unfortunately in my immaturity one place I didn't accept a shortcoming was in the bedroom. So if my girl was too tired or didn't have enough time for I found someone with time and energy to match. That was my young mind not knowing any better. (Sometimes I got caught up and tryst that started out sexual blossomed into true love and had me stuck- but that's for a different post) Now my head is on straight and I look at my girl for ALL that she does provide instead of punishing her for that which she doesn't. Don't get me wrong she's no angel she's had her own indiscretions for reasons never voiced to me. And for insight on why she and many other women slip, Simplicity...

Simplicity:

...Speechless (7/7/2009)

OK... 2 days later after much thought has been put into this.. all I can say is that if ever I were to slip... or consider any form of slippage I would remove myself from the relationship deeming it inadequate to my existence. Women I assume would cheat for the same reasons as men and primarily because of a lack of fulfilment. BUT, did you see that new study that offers evidence that their may be a genetic or chemical composition within a man's DNA that may explain certain men's need or urge to cheat. Imagine that... men can be tested for this chemical imbalance that will let a woman know their man in literally incapable of being faithful!? LMAO... I don't know much more about it but I just thought it was interesting.

Let me apologize for the digression.

I have learned over time that in a relationship... it is natural to want for what isn't there.. However, in that same respect it is natural to equate one's happiness in that relationship as a measure against the qualities that do exist in the relationship. I personally believe that it is not immature to want the entire package bundled into one because when you find true love, it's a given. Granted life is difficult and times are hard, being with the person you have the utmost love and respect for, that does their best to give you everything you need and want makes it all the more worth while and all the more enjoyable that you won't take notice of any shortcomings if they even exist. I guess what I'm trying to say is... when you're in love it is more common to settle in the comfortable discomfort of a situation than to be faced with perfection. Therefore, we limit ourselves to accepting less than we deserve, or as natural lovers are entitled to.

SO, you can call yourself immature for feeling less fulfilled in certain aspects of your relationship ie. sex, but think about this;

If everything else in your life is hard word and dedication to other things and other people, shouldn't the wondrous and relieving act of sex be one of the most satisfying parts of the relationship being a tangible aspect of it????