So many of our fav songs and artist today drop cues on the feeling that we shouldn't get too comfortable in love because we are not irreplaceable. So often do we hear in our music and see in real life the acceptance of cheating and infidelity. My questions are when and how did we get away from the time where our pop music crooners begged and swooned their love interest to stay or pledged their undying devotion to that ONE person that made them feel special. When did love become expendable? Think of your relationships and if you are not in one think of past ones or even future preferences. What are some things that make your significant other expendable? I mean besides the obvious cheating and lack of trust, what qualities do they bring to the table that make you feel as if you need an upgrade?
For me as trite as this may sound sex is the determining factor in regards to expendability. I'm not saying this is a "right" way to evaluate love interest but in my past the one thing I had the most trouble with was infidelity. And my rationale would be that all the emotional things- the rapport, the warm feelings of love, etc or all the support- the cooking, the cleaning, the insightful views, etc I got from one woman/relationship, I could get from another woman AND have better sex with that next woman. Like I said its may not be the most thoughtful or sensitive way of looking at it but it was my thought process.
Simplicity:
My dear Sean,
You never fail to amaze me with your valuable insight. This is why men and women are forever struggling to find their own comfort and happiness. I'd agree with you 100% that as trite as it may sound, sex is the determining factor. Let me present my case; Every one has relationships... everyone meets new people and at times may try to establish something with that other person. But, is it not true love when you find that one person that does all of the common things plus provides you with the feeling of never wanting for anything more from anyone. Granted sex is not the sole purpose of a relationship, but sex plays a major part. If one is NOT sexually satisfied, it is not an act of greed to seek it from elsewhere. The issue with infidelity is this:
Some men and women cheat just because they can and for the simple fact that if they don't like it they can always return home because sadly their main chick or dude isn't gonna go anywhere.
Others cheat because there is something lacking, ie. fulfilling sex and the rest of the package bundled into one. This is where we find ourselves falling victim to love in its truest purest form because she always comes at the perfectly worst time. You can't stop yourself from falling in love with your soul mate. (Yea i said it, SOUL MATE)
Whether you're in a relationship with someone that makes you content or are single, it is impossible to ignore true love once it comes knocking and places things in a brand new perspective. Naturally, within infidelity, the act of lovemaking becomes a huge factor because you end up learning another person through that one act. It is up to you to choose to move forward with it or walk away and mindblowing, passionate, sex... that's the greatest indicator of an unhappiness you couldn't quite put your finger on before. We were placed here for specific reasons, some known others aren't... Woman was made for Man, and my argument is... who says we are to settle if we haven't found exactly what we want in one person. Furthermore... if we have, who are we to deny ourselves the person that was evidently made for us?
On the other hand, our lives are about comparisons and if you want to ask what makes one's current situation or relationship expendable... i'd answer with this... It's the comparisons and conclusions you make and draw between one person and the next that indicate the lackluster personality of one and the "phenomenalness" (<- just for you Sean) of another. So maybe for some... those of us who aren't exactly where we want to be with regard to relationships...infidelity is the key to finding their own happiness.
My dear Sean,
You never fail to amaze me with your valuable insight. This is why men and women are forever struggling to find their own comfort and happiness. I'd agree with you 100% that as trite as it may sound, sex is the determining factor. Let me present my case; Every one has relationships... everyone meets new people and at times may try to establish something with that other person. But, is it not true love when you find that one person that does all of the common things plus provides you with the feeling of never wanting for anything more from anyone. Granted sex is not the sole purpose of a relationship, but sex plays a major part. If one is NOT sexually satisfied, it is not an act of greed to seek it from elsewhere. The issue with infidelity is this:
Some men and women cheat just because they can and for the simple fact that if they don't like it they can always return home because sadly their main chick or dude isn't gonna go anywhere.
Others cheat because there is something lacking, ie. fulfilling sex and the rest of the package bundled into one. This is where we find ourselves falling victim to love in its truest purest form because she always comes at the perfectly worst time. You can't stop yourself from falling in love with your soul mate. (Yea i said it, SOUL MATE)
Whether you're in a relationship with someone that makes you content or are single, it is impossible to ignore true love once it comes knocking and places things in a brand new perspective. Naturally, within infidelity, the act of lovemaking becomes a huge factor because you end up learning another person through that one act. It is up to you to choose to move forward with it or walk away and mindblowing, passionate, sex... that's the greatest indicator of an unhappiness you couldn't quite put your finger on before. We were placed here for specific reasons, some known others aren't... Woman was made for Man, and my argument is... who says we are to settle if we haven't found exactly what we want in one person. Furthermore... if we have, who are we to deny ourselves the person that was evidently made for us?
On the other hand, our lives are about comparisons and if you want to ask what makes one's current situation or relationship expendable... i'd answer with this... It's the comparisons and conclusions you make and draw between one person and the next that indicate the lackluster personality of one and the "phenomenalness" (<- just for you Sean) of another. So maybe for some... those of us who aren't exactly where we want to be with regard to relationships...infidelity is the key to finding their own happiness.
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