"Success is uncommon, therefore not to be enjoyed by the common man. I'm looking for uncommon people."
I think I made no bones about it in my last post that I'm not the biggest "fan" of love. But while my favorite writer (checkout candicesonya.blogspot.com) is taking a hiatus from intriguing us with poetic masterpieces on the subject of affection to talk about Bikes (for real though- bikes? What are you jay-z and that's your "death of auto tune"? Have you run out of things to say?!")I will take up the task of provoking your thoughts on love.
When scrolling through the list of things you love about your significant other, ever notice that you mention things that are totally generic and very rarely unique to that person? We say things that can be found in almost any other human being: his/her smile, she's nice or thoughtful, he's tall dark and handsome etc.»Who isn't?!
For example I fell in love with two woman of very similar qualities: beautiful, thick, smart and funny. Now its very rare for me to find women funny and this led to me being so in love with these two phenomenal women- but overall there are literally millions of smart funny pretty thick women and 80% of them could be found in college! So I have to ask myself do I run the risk of falling in love with every woman that fits this build? And if so I must attest that it wasn't the two aforementioned ladies that I was in love with- it was their type that truly captivated me. So is the true conquest of happiness through finding your soul mate a matter of finding that true love- which are ultimately just an uncommon blend of common characteristics or finding that person who is totally different from anything you ever encountered?
I'm egotistical so for me to be comfortable in any relationship I have to believe that I am absolute best choice for the person I'm with. I can't feel as if the other person is simply settling for me: I have to be their number 1 choice among a plethora of viable options. So to achieve this I try to differentiate myself from every other man on earth! I want to be everything to my lady; so that when asked why she's in love with me she says things that are uniquely me, (he's funny handsome, brilliant strong cooks cleans gives me pedis remodels the house changes my tires fixes my alternator does my hair sews my gowns- ok no one man does all that but u get the idea!) she says things that no other female can name while detailing the reason they love their mates, she says "I love him because he's Sean (and there's no other man on earth like him)."
Simplicity...?
I think I made no bones about it in my last post that I'm not the biggest "fan" of love. But while my favorite writer (checkout candicesonya.blogspot.com) is taking a hiatus from intriguing us with poetic masterpieces on the subject of affection to talk about Bikes (for real though- bikes? What are you jay-z and that's your "death of auto tune"? Have you run out of things to say?!")I will take up the task of provoking your thoughts on love.
When scrolling through the list of things you love about your significant other, ever notice that you mention things that are totally generic and very rarely unique to that person? We say things that can be found in almost any other human being: his/her smile, she's nice or thoughtful, he's tall dark and handsome etc.»Who isn't?!
For example I fell in love with two woman of very similar qualities: beautiful, thick, smart and funny. Now its very rare for me to find women funny and this led to me being so in love with these two phenomenal women- but overall there are literally millions of smart funny pretty thick women and 80% of them could be found in college! So I have to ask myself do I run the risk of falling in love with every woman that fits this build? And if so I must attest that it wasn't the two aforementioned ladies that I was in love with- it was their type that truly captivated me. So is the true conquest of happiness through finding your soul mate a matter of finding that true love- which are ultimately just an uncommon blend of common characteristics or finding that person who is totally different from anything you ever encountered?
I'm egotistical so for me to be comfortable in any relationship I have to believe that I am absolute best choice for the person I'm with. I can't feel as if the other person is simply settling for me: I have to be their number 1 choice among a plethora of viable options. So to achieve this I try to differentiate myself from every other man on earth! I want to be everything to my lady; so that when asked why she's in love with me she says things that are uniquely me, (he's funny handsome, brilliant strong cooks cleans gives me pedis remodels the house changes my tires fixes my alternator does my hair sews my gowns- ok no one man does all that but u get the idea!) she says things that no other female can name while detailing the reason they love their mates, she says "I love him because he's Sean (and there's no other man on earth like him)."
Simplicity...?
Simplicity:
"his/her smile, she's nice or thoughtful, he's tall dark and handsome etc.»???" All of these things are unique to an individual as they can be nice in emotional and physical ways, her smile can bring you to your brightest of smiles, her height and features can be so perfectly fitting to specifically her.
There's nothing wrong with voicing the tangible things be them generic in your opinion because the way you are or your generic qualities are specific to you.
I have struggled time and again trying to decipher or explain rather, why you love a person... but the main qualities about someone are physical and that is what initially draws you to them. The emotional aspects, him/her being funny and intellectual follow the initial attraction and exploring that emotional in addition to the physical is what makes us connect to other people. The man that I'm in love with will most definitely be unique because otherwise I'd be a big mess in love with everyone else that makes me laugh and is somewhat handsome. But, it has to do with the level of comfort you establish with a person, the laughter and great conversations are feasible with anyone but it's with whom you feel most stimulated that you can't wait to continue or spark a new conversation with.
I will argue that every time a person loves someone it is a different and unique experience. AND, it is not generic to point out the obvious things because those things are generic in the broad sense however, those obvious things are ultimately what leads a person to find their counterpart in another and to be able to experience being in love.
So in love vs. indifferent...?
If you have to question it, I'd question my own reason for being on this Earth, and the reason for which that person entered your life and stirred up all these conflicting, confusing, badly-timed feelings and emotions.
If you have to question it, I'd question my own reason for being on this Earth, and the reason for which that person entered your life and stirred up all these conflicting, confusing, badly-timed feelings and emotions.
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